tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.comments2016-03-26T05:02:33.406-04:00Aspiring Mommy-ScientistAspiring Mommy-Scientisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03604618076540392468noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-16782652754092705422014-03-11T19:26:53.350-04:002014-03-11T19:26:53.350-04:00Somehow I stumbled on this, and it is EXACTLY out ...Somehow I stumbled on this, and it is EXACTLY out of my brain today. The most productivity I have gotten is while happily buzzed on a few beers, and I was enjoying writing, for what felt like the first time in ages. I decided that I would do that: write drunk, edit sober. Then lo-and-behold, here I see it.<br /><br />ADHD has been my foe, also! And I have the same fears about uncharted territory! I swear, it is the reason why I haven't written anything for my thesis yet! And I am avoiding my supervisor like crazy!<br /><br />I hope you met your deadline, but you were/are not alone! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-32003361082663801092012-02-15T09:59:53.907-05:002012-02-15T09:59:53.907-05:00Hi everyone, I am in the same position as mommy-sc...Hi everyone, I am in the same position as mommy-scientist. I've wanted a baby for 2 years now but we are having fertility issues. My doctor told me that my chances of getting pregnant naturally are lower than the average woman, in addition to the fact that it might get harder faster as I age than normal women. My best chance of getting pregnant is IVF. I am a new post doc (started in Jan) and am doing mostly reading right now. I started to think that maybe if I'm going to do IVF now is the time since I can be at home reading as much as possible. I'm worried that once my experiments start up I wont be able to come home if I feel sick (from the IVF hormones). I am quite close to my PhD mentor and she said that it would be best for me to wait until I have my own post-doc grant (another year or so). What do you guys think? Any advice would be really appreciated!<br />Also Mommy-Scientist: I agree with everyone else, if you continue to look for the "best time", you'll wait forever. This is the same situation I am in! Like everyone else said...you WILL make it work once the baby is a reality.MJBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15529703294857056831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-936266304824074082011-04-22T13:26:52.912-04:002011-04-22T13:26:52.912-04:00Just wondering how everything is going for you now...Just wondering how everything is going for you now...not sure if you still check this or not. My baby was due shortly after yours and he is now 8.5 months old. Found your blog through a google search or babycenter, not sure. Hope everything is well.Shellyhttp://www.tsbrawn.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-54872175605683986762010-07-15T07:48:11.880-04:002010-07-15T07:48:11.880-04:00Yeah, you could very well be right, I'd love t...Yeah, you could very well be right, I'd love to take a year of leave from my program, but unfortunately, that's not a realistic option for me. My hubby doesn't make that much money to support the 3 of us alone, even considering the savings in daycare and gas.Aspiring Mommy-Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03604618076540392468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-54195408843710336652010-07-14T22:15:49.052-04:002010-07-14T22:15:49.052-04:00My two cents' worth: The reason you stress abo...My two cents' worth: The reason you stress about day care might be that deep down, you want to be the day care provider yourself. Listen to your soul. You will never regret putting baby before school/work but you might vice versa. I turned down a PhD offer this year, that I'd applied for and been accepted to, because I became pregnant and I want to be the day care provider for my own baby who is due in September. He'll be my third. The PhD can wait five years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-14514598062176394092010-05-10T13:46:33.636-04:002010-05-10T13:46:33.636-04:00If you (or anyone else who will be driven crazy by...If you (or anyone else who will be driven crazy by this - I do understand the feeling!) want to email me at aspiringmommyscientist (at) gmail (dot) com, I will reply to you in private. I just don't want it publicly available on the internet.Aspiring Mommy-Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03604618076540392468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-88844200570909623082010-05-10T03:14:43.509-04:002010-05-10T03:14:43.509-04:00Can i please know the name because it will drive m...Can i please know the name because it will drive me insane. just comment it on my page randomly! please.the "L" spothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00320602994752272984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-10829789836609900922010-02-22T11:04:26.744-05:002010-02-22T11:04:26.744-05:00Yay! Congratulations, I am glad you're fine an...Yay! Congratulations, I am glad you're fine and your screening was good! Now that you entered the second trimester, I hope you'll feel as energetic as I do (and used to do with my other pregnancies). You go girl!Fiahttp://academiaandme.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-84510027716300957832010-02-22T10:43:13.048-05:002010-02-22T10:43:13.048-05:00Congrats on the girl and I love that you looked up...Congrats on the girl and I love that you looked up the pubmed stats! Pink was my all-time enemy as a kid, but in my twenties I discovered better shades and realized it's not so bad...in moderation!<br /><br /><br />PS--I am still around too, although my blog is down right now.DFighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17246786394817143691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-26482371635120276332010-02-12T21:13:55.077-05:002010-02-12T21:13:55.077-05:00Dear Aspiring Mommy Scientist,
My sweet and beau...Dear Aspiring Mommy Scientist, <br /><br />My sweet and beautiful wife made this video about motherhood for the Mom 2.0 Conference. It is entitled, "What I Would Tell Her: If I knew what to say."<br /><br />It is on her blog, katherinecenter.com<br /><br />I hope you enjoy it. <br /><br />All my best, <br /><br />Gordon Center<br />Houston, TexasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-54495777231442454472010-01-12T15:58:42.348-05:002010-01-12T15:58:42.348-05:00Congrats! I have been reading sporadically for a f...Congrats! I have been reading sporadically for a few months now and am thrilled at your news! I am an aspring mommy scientist myself (1 girl, a boy on the way, year 4 in PhD). Good luck telling your advisor. It is good your advisor has children - mine doesn't and really doesn't get it - usually compares it to his having dogs. When I told him about #1 he said "well, that's fine if that's what you want to do." He definitely didn't ease up the workload, and he has since mostly ignored the fact that I have a daughter, even if she is sitting on my lap during a meeting.<br /><br />I had to tell him early (around 7 or 8 weeks) with this pregnancy because there is no maternity leave for grad students in my program and if I take an official leave-of-absence I lose my health insurance (not ideal for pregnant ladies). I was losing sleep over how to actually have the baby and not lose my insurance or have to TA the entire semester. He basically told me to work it out with the department chair (who thankfully was ultra-supportive!). <br /><br />It wasn't ideal for him to be one of the first people I talked to, but it was OK, and I was glad for everything to be out so I could start preparing. I think unless someone is a total jerk, at a minimum they will be professional about it. It sounds like you have an advantage since your advisor has kids and your program at least has some minimal written guidelines.<br /><br />Anyway, good luck!Botanistanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-64192723380888037222010-01-09T21:21:33.069-05:002010-01-09T21:21:33.069-05:00As I understand it, the risk of miscarriage is 15-...As I understand it, the risk of miscarriage is 15-20% during the first trimester, but that drops to 5-10% once the heartbeat has been detected on an ultrasound. I think that's an acceptable risk to take, and besides, I would probably end up telling him anyway if I miscarried, as I would need a few days off to recover. But anyway, this weekend didn't turn out to be a good time, so it looks like I'll be waiting until 8 weeks (next weekend) anyway.Aspiring Mommy-Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03604618076540392468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-24951381603427134062010-01-09T17:04:50.030-05:002010-01-09T17:04:50.030-05:00Ah, its sooo nice. And I am very happy for you.
R...Ah, its sooo nice. And I am very happy for you. <br />Risking to spoil your happines, I'd wait until 12 weeks, 8 minimum. It's hard enough when you loose it, but if you have to tell your PI (and everybody whom he told), it's horrible. Plus then they all know you're trying and wait for the next one... horrible situation. Maybe I am overcareful, but remember, there is a 25% chance of loosing it before week 12... I do not want to disappoint you at all, but 6 weeks is nothing, really.Fiahttp://academiaandme.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-57804016632464923492010-01-03T19:21:11.921-05:002010-01-03T19:21:11.921-05:00I came across your blog and wanted to write. I...I came across your blog and wanted to write. I'm due August 22 2009 and also a scientist. I am so happy for you, and enjoy your posts. I haven't told a lot of people yet, but I'm going to take a cue from you and keep track of what I'm going through. I'm only saving them as drafts now, but as I start sharing the news with more people, I'll posts the blog entries for real. Congratulations to you and your baby!Shellyhttp://www.tsbrawn.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-1320141831145462642009-12-28T05:44:53.635-05:002009-12-28T05:44:53.635-05:00Congratulations!!!Congratulations!!!MomPhDstudenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09318163186222593903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-86023274021547146812009-12-21T20:17:38.346-05:002009-12-21T20:17:38.346-05:00congratulations! such happy news.congratulations! such happy news.Shellyhttp://www.tsbrawn.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-59384060439197712212009-12-20T19:00:14.684-05:002009-12-20T19:00:14.684-05:00Ah, congratulations! That is excellent! I wish you...Ah, congratulations! That is excellent! I wish you all the best! What a nice x-mas present. Take care.Fiahttp://academiaandme.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-29884528946052755012009-12-20T18:15:34.849-05:002009-12-20T18:15:34.849-05:00congrats! This is great news!
How ironic that I...congrats! This is great news! <br /><br />How ironic that I just posted about wanting to make serious baby making plans this year and then you post about your major news. <br /><br />Again congrats! I look forward to hearing how and when you tell your PI.DFighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17246786394817143691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-19563383178469702222009-10-29T17:33:08.202-04:002009-10-29T17:33:08.202-04:00Oh, how nice! Sounds like you have a great plan. M...Oh, how nice! Sounds like you have a great plan. My partner always says that there's no right time for kids, - so let them come as they do! Good luck!Fiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10021925968809125246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-71613960874408102092009-10-27T10:07:04.698-04:002009-10-27T10:07:04.698-04:00Congrats! great decision....we must all stop makin...Congrats! great decision....we must all stop making our "personal life" decisions based on our lab. Have fun trying :)<br /><br />Ironically, my PI announced yesterday that she is expecting (which I suspected b/c there was a visible bump). This has dimmed my hopes of trying because I just can't see it being beneficial for two sets of pregnant people to be in ONE lab.DFighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17246786394817143691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-66640080674737557422009-09-29T02:38:00.301-04:002009-09-29T02:38:00.301-04:00I can't believe you sent this whole post from ...I can't believe you sent this whole post from your mobile! Impressive. I've found meditative silence helps me answer important questions I can't see the answer to.Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-23977368861405653812009-08-12T10:05:12.543-04:002009-08-12T10:05:12.543-04:00Of course! You can email me at aspiringmommyscien...Of course! You can email me at aspiringmommyscientist at gmail dot com.Aspiring Mommy-Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03604618076540392468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-68885882935002257102009-08-11T22:37:10.642-04:002009-08-11T22:37:10.642-04:00I am super interested in your grad student group. ...I am super interested in your grad student group. We are a couple of steps behind you (just transitioned from venting to organizing). Are you meeting with students in your program only, or are you working with grad students in other programs too?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-38608136843001297112009-08-11T16:33:53.121-04:002009-08-11T16:33:53.121-04:00I want to respond to your questionnaire and also g...I want to respond to your questionnaire and also give you a personal note as I'm currently a grad student mom and we had our first kid when my husband was in grad school (different U). Do you have an email address I could send it to?wombatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5793535776334488873.post-1089833801805522192009-08-11T11:38:16.077-04:002009-08-11T11:38:16.077-04:00Just saw your post on babycenter (http://community...Just saw your post on babycenter (http://community.babycenter.com/post/a8762145/graduate_student_maternity_leave_policies) -- I was wondering if you want to email me directly to talk about maternity leave policies? I'm a writer doing some background research on the topic. alisonfromme at nasw dot orgAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com